There is one word that describes Stress. That word is “OVER”!! In today’s super-fast, super electronic world, we are overworked, overloaded and definitely OVERWHELMED. Here are some amazing tips to get you OVER those feelings. You can’t just read this and not implement these strategies in to your life. I know it sounds like even MORE work, but it is something that I have been practicing for a while now as I just could not settle myself down and it is proven so far to provide me with more peace, calmness and clarity in my life. Even my doc mentioned how much calmer I appeared 🙂 Sadly we are not super human know matter how much we would like to think we are.
You already know you have your plate extremely full right? If you are like me, you take on much more than you should. Learn to JUST SAY NO. Seriously, if someone asks you to do something and you do not want to do it, or don’t have the time, explain that to them. How could they possibly get mad at you for saying you just really can’t handle anything more right now. I also think to myself “if the situation was the other way around and I was asking for something from this person, would they help me?” Most often I don’t think they would because they too are in the same position. It is not being rude, it is taking care of YOU. I hated to say no but I am growing to love it. Why? because when I am able to say no to something, it gives me the time to say yes to the things that are really a priority.
How many of you do not have any “to-do lists”? I was one of them. And I had so many different things going on in my head I really felt like it was going to explode. SO many things I felt like there was a tornado spinning around and I could not focus for anything. I am telling you, get out a notebook and create a list. On this list include the most important things in your life that you want to focus your time and energy on. My list includes my family, my friends, my health, my marriage, and my children, my business. So when a question arises if I will do something, I look at my list and ask myself if I have anything that needs to be done in regards to anything on that list. Did I spend enough quality time with my kids this week, did I exercise to take care of my health etc. If not, I know that I can say no without guilt because although it might be a great opportunity, it will only serve to distract me from the more important things.
Another important thing is to set goals. If you really want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, it is of the utmost importance that you set goals. Don’t set all these unattainable goals that you know you can not accomplish. Start small with a few very simple, realistic, but specific goals. For instance if you are on a diet, say I will lose 1-2 pounds over the week by eating healthier and exercising at least twice a week. If you are trying to save money (which we all know can be very difficult) set aside an additional $10 per week for the next year and then take that money and do something fun with your loved ones. We all need get-away time from our daily lives. Even if you only have a few small but realistic goals to work toward, this can transform your entire motivation for living. Knowing you have this purpose, this reason – you will feel like you are actually doing something and going somewhere, instead of just aimlessly spinning your wheels and putting yourself in self-exhausting. Having too much going on and overloading yourself without seeing any results only leads to a very low energy level and takes away the passion you should have in life!
What are the biggest time suckers for most of us? Yep you guessed it, the phone, surfing the internet, texting etc. Learn to set specific phone hours and let your voicemail get the rest. Set times to surf the net, otherwise you know you will be on it ten times longer than planned. If Facebook has taken over your life, disable it for a few days and see how much you get accomplished. The world will really not end. If something is that important then the important people will know how to reach you otherwise. No I have never disabled my Facebook account, but I have learned to just check in and check out. Typically I only really look at it while I am waiting for something else (like at a doctors appt and there is nothing better to do). I really don’t think I am missing much as Facebook has really turned in to LOTS AND LOTS of ads and people sharing the same information over and over and over. Don’t get me wrong, I love interacting with people on Facebook but I have realized it is more of a distraction when I should be focusing on my list. It is OK to shut off all electronics and you will not die. In fact, you might discover what you have been missing while you have been too busy watching for the latest status update from someone else. Seriously, do you ever get depressed when reading Facebook and seeing other people on vacation or pics of friends and family doing fun things together? Yes, they post these but they obviously were not on Facebook when they were doing them. You too can be doing these fun things.
For many, many years, I lacked sleep because I just could not go to bed if there was something I felt needed to be done. Guess what? Again, we do not have super powers, we are not robots, and time simple moves too fast to complete EVERYTHING in a day. Make sleep a priority. It is ok to let the dishes sit in the sink, it is ok to let the laundry sit in the dryer overnight, no you do not have to find that “thing” you just thought about because your really not going to use it tonight or maybe at all for that matter. If you have trouble sleeping, try putting some lavender oil on the bottom of your feet. From someone who took hours to go to sleep previously, I can tell you that your eyes will be closed and you will be sleeping like a baby within a half hour. I know the temptation of staying up late to accomplish things when all others are snuggled in their bed and the house is quiet. BUT I also know that lack of sleep has taken a great toll on my mind and body over the years. If you feel extremely worn out during the day even a 10 or 15-minute catnap can do wonders! It is your body telling you what it needs and it is ok to relax and take care of yourself.
I have been a Debbie Downer on myself most of my life. Feeling like I don’t measure up, or I am not good enough, I am a failure, no one likes me, etc. They are all lies and don’t let yourself believe NONE of it. You can not have a positive life with a negative mind. It is hard to recognize what you are doing to yourself when you are in that state of mind. You have to start replacing those words with the truth. I am good enough because I am trying my best, people do like me but maybe they are just having their own bad day – don’t take it personally. I always thought people were mad at me because of THEIR attitude, then I realized that everyone goes through their own thing which of course reflects in their attitude, but it is important not to take it as they are upset with you. Especially when you know you have not done anything. Read something positive everyday, surround yourself with people who believe in you. If you hear others complaining or whining, try to walk away because there will always be those unhappy people who just WON’T try hard enough to get out of that negative funk and they will try to drag you down.
Another thing you can do each day is to take the time to write down in a journal what you are grateful for. This doesn’t take a whole lot of time and doesn’t have to be perfectly written. But it will give you something to look at and reflect upon when you are having a bad day. And hopefully it will lift you up and remind you on the many blessings you already have in your life that we all take for granted.
Each of us are different, but there is one thing that is true for all of us. We ALL need time to refuel our tank. We simply can not just give and give and give without completely wearing ourselves out. You may be refreshed by going for a walk, doing yoga, reading a book just for pleasure, maybe having coffee or cocoa in front of a cozy fire. Whatever it is, figure out what refreshes you and make sure to do this for at least 15 minutes a day. If you do not take care of yourself first, you won’t be as valuable as you can be to everything else – your kids, your spouse, your job, your family, your pets – the list can go on and on.
Just be good to yourself and enjoy life!
HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!
I wanted to share this poem with you all. It was given to my daughter from her Grama Marlene who passed away in August of 2013. She fought a long battle with cancer and we were blessed to have her in our lives. She would always give my daughter these wonderful poems and other inspirational things. When I read this one, it just really put life into perspective and I realized this is exactly how I want to live my own life. My last living grandparent – my Grama Mary (91-1/2 yrs old) passed away just one week ago. I loved the moments we got to spend alone together and the wisdom she provided me during that time. I will miss her dearly but I will see her again one day. We always say when it is TOO LATE that we wish we would have had more time to spend with those we loved and lost. We have no idea when our time, or someone else’s time may be up, so quit wishing and spend that “MORE TIME” today, tomorrow and the next day. Live your life to the fullest. Be Happy. Love and be loved. Be YOURSELF always.
Good night and Sweet Dreams.
Hey world – so I have been busting my hiney for the last 6 months trying this whole self-employment biz. It certainly is not easy cheesy. But when you want it bad enough you have to PUSH yourself beyond what you thought you were capable of. During this time there have been lots of highs and LOTS of lows already and I am sure there is more to come. I got to a point where I just needed to take a break and do some soul-searching. I think I have discovered a few things by taking that much-needed break. More to come on that but wanted to share a few tips for those that really need a quick and easy pick me up.
THREE TIPS ON HOW TO GET YOURSELF OUT OF THAT NO FUN FUNK!!!
Sing – It really does relieve depression. It doesn’t matter if you have a top artist voice or not – crank up those upbeat tunes and belt it out. It will make you feel MUCH better and change your mood. Dancing works too!! Stay AWAY from teary music that will bring you right back down. I love myself some good old country music too BUT it is best not to listen to those sob songs when you yourself are feeling down. Sing in your kitchen while you cook or sing in your car (who really cares if someone sees you – personally when I see someone singing their heart out in their car it really makes me laugh and smile). Trust me, it makes a big difference to release your tensions through singing.
When you are feeling REALLY low and just want to hide and vegetate – find a friend to give you that much needed kick in the butt. You know – the one who asks you to do things and you always say no because your feeling blah and don’t wanna leave your house. GO DO IT – GO DO SOMETHING. You never know what will happen when you do. It could change your life. You find inspiration outside your home and you never know when you will run in to that one person who can connect you to your next amazing friendship or business opportunity.
Try something new and exciting. Even if your not that type of person to get “outside your box” – Just as we tell our children to try new foods etc. you will NEVER know how exciting something is or how much you may love it until you do it – JUST DO IT!!
I can not tell you how much reading self-love articles helps me. It is very important for those who pick on themselves to do this. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. And chances are, if you don’t love yourself others will have a hard time too. People are drawn to people with positive confident attitudes. Wake up each morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself “I love myself, I love who I am and today is going to be a great day”. Test it out. It really works.
I do not go to church every Sunday, in fact I don’t go at all (maybe once a year). I am not a big “Holy Roller” as some might refer to those who constantly refer to religious beliefs on everything BUT I do believe in God. Having conversations with God is a true gift. It is not only a way to vent and be still with yourself, but it really helps to refocus when your mind is all over the place. I am supposed to get this daily devotional I signed up for about what “God wants me to know”, however I don’t get it daily for some reason. I DO however get it right when I need it, AND it always says just what I really need to hear. It blows my mind and gives me this rush inside because often it is at my breaking points when I receive these messages. And they come the day after I have been crying my eyes out in the shower begging for some answers. I know I know, God has nothing to do with computers and e-mails and all that Jazz but I also know he works in mysterious ways – he works through people. To me there is NO other explanation of how this happens at the right time.
“The moment your ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens. Don’t Give Up!”
With Much Love,
Good Morning – Are we all happy it is Friday? Now that I work from home I really have to think about what day it is – Kinda funny, kinda sad all at the same time because I work everyday. But I LOVE IT. I am a creator, so how awesome is that to be able to just go and create something awesome anytime you want to?
I work in my basement. Normally it is just the sweet sound of the electric heater I have going but that started to smoke so I haven’t used it in days. I needed something to drown out the quiet so I decided to start listing to music. Why I didn’t do this much before is beyond me, yet quite obvious now. You see, I started yesterday and was listing to the “Ladies of the 80’s” station – OMG all I wanted to do was dance. As soon as “Nasty” came on by Janet Jackson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ldi9677mj60 I jumped my butt out of my chair and went crazy. It brought me back a good 25+ years when my friends and I made up a dance to this song. And believe it or not I REMEMBERED it. GOOD TIMES. Add 10 years or so to that decade and I used to listen to “Push It” by Salt-N-Pepper https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4onJ7Z2MLI. How could you not dance to this stuff? Anyways I got quite the workout and felt great.
We brought our pooch in to the vet for the first time. Just like a Doc visit, we checked in, waited, got put in a room, waited – then she came in and wanted a urine sample. Outside we went with a little tray. Seriously, this is really how its done? I about burst when they were trying to attempt to take a urine same from Ruby, especially with the EXTRA LARGE St. Bernard sitting in this tiny car having a stare down with her. lol I forgot to mention, Ruby is not scared and will jump on any size dog to play. Luckily they stayed in the vehicle until we went in, OR I would have gotten another good workout trying to catch her. Back in, time to take a rectal temp. Ruby jumps on my husbands lap and stands with front paws on his shoulders. Looked like she was saying “ok I am ready do your thing and get it over with” ha ha. I am finding out more and more that Dogs are more human than we think.
On to today – I started my jam sessions with a little trucking music. I grew up in a trucking family AND worked for them for 10 years so I am fond of this music. So many songs have such great meaning. Give this one a listen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zoTLwrm9QE Yet, there are so many that make me wanna jump out of my seat – like this one… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igtD5s2fZwc. I love music of all kinds…. If you need a pick me up, punch up your favorite oldie but goodie on YouTube and get to shaking what your momma gave you!
Needless to say I am getting a lot of dancing done today too 🙂
It is time to start and finish a bunch of projects so I better get to it. But I am curious to know your thoughts on music and production (meaning does it help to get things done or not so much?) and what decade of music is your favorite and why? I would love to have you link your favorite song from the past in a reply back to this so I can listen to them and learn a little more about your taste of music.
Enjoy this beautiful day!
A simple “I Love You” means more than money. “Frank Sinatra”